The Gift of Rest: A Prescription Worth Sharing

I write to share with you a unique experience that has been nothing short of a revelation. My dear friend, who also happens to be a trusted doctor, gifted me a prescription recently. You might wonder, what could this prescription possibly be? To my surprise, it was something we all need but seldom prioritize – rest.

This prescription was not filled with complex medical terms or instructions for medications. Instead, it held a simple, yet powerful message: "Take time to rest."

A concept so simple, yet so profound, it opened my eyes to the importance of allowing ourselves the space to rejuvenate and replenish our energy.

It was, without a doubt, the exact gift that I needed. It made me understand that rest isn't a luxury, but a necessity. It is a vital part of maintaining our health, productivity, and overall well-being. And it's high-time we all started treating it as such.

Inspired by this experience, I feel compelled to pay it forward. Consider this post your personal prescription for rest. Take it as permission to catch up on sleep, read a book, go for a walk, or simply do nothing at all.

Remember, rest is not a sign of weakness or laziness, but a testament to understanding the importance of self-care. It's about nourishing your soul and resetting your mind to better face the challenges of life.

Wishing you a beautiful week ahead. 

Xoxo-
Ali

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Embracing Change: The Beauty in Redefining Ourselves

Change, as we know, is an inevitable part of life. Often, it compels us to redefine ourselves, a process that can be uncomfortable, unfamiliar, and downright daunting.

But remember, it is precisely this unease that embodies the transformative power of change.

In these moments of transformation, we are challenged to step out of our comfort zones, to question what we have known and who we have been. The discomfort you feel is the echo of an old self, making room for the person you are becoming. It's a sign of growth, a sign that you are moving forward, learning, and evolving.

It's important to remember that redefining ourselves is not about denying who we were, but about embracing who we could be.

Remember you are a masterpiece and you also get to be a work in progress. Each iteration of ourselves is a testament to our resilience, strength, and capacity for growth. The discomfort you feel is temporary, but the self-discovery and personal development you will achieve in the process is timeless and irreplaceable.

I encourage you not to shy away from this discomfort, but to lean into it. See it not as a deterrent, but as a milestone on the road to self-discovery and personal growth. Remember, every step you take, every moment of unease, is a step toward becoming a stronger, wiser, more vibrant version of yourself.

As I sit here on a quiet weekend morning, I realize that just sitting and resting is often uncomfortable in a world where productivity is rewarded. I know where my work is. And, it is not comfortable, AND I am making huge strides to unmarry a constant “desire” to be productive. The moment is where the magic is. May you embrace every moment that feels still, if even for a nano-second.

Wishing you a beautiful week!

Xo
Ali

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Find Out How I Made My Daughters So Proud!!

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Last week marked a significant milestone in my journey as I embraced the vibrant, dynamic world of TikTok.

This decision was driven by a desire to connect with you on a deeper level, to share knowledge in an engaging and accessible format. And, not to mention, my daughters are so proud of me. :)

Now onto my TikTok experience so far. What is so interesting to me is the diversity in responses. While the vast majority of you expressed gratitude for the educational content, there were a select few who chose to post comments that were less than kind and not reflecting a growth mindset. Also, a great reflection of the diverse world we live in, a world where different opinions and perspectives coexist.

It was this difference in responses that made me truly evaluate my commitment to my own growth mindset. Yes, it was challenging to read those less positive responses, but it was also a reminder of the importance of resilience and persistence. It's easy to fall into a mindset of complacency when we surround ourselves with only positive feedback. Personal growth is not a straight path, but a winding road filled with ups and downs, and it is our mindset that determines whether we see these as obstacles or as opportunities.

So, how do you know if you possess a growth mindset?

It's all about your perspective on challenges, effort, and criticism. If you view challenges as opportunities to learn and grow, if you believe that effort is the key to mastery, and if you see criticism as valuable feedback rather than a personal attack, then congratulations! You are indeed nurturing a growth mindset.

Having a growth mindset means embracing the fact that your abilities can be developed through dedication and hard work. It's not just about raw talent or genetic gifts. It's about acknowledging that you're a work in progress, and every challenge is a stepping stone toward becoming a better version of yourself.

So, with that being said, I invite you to follow me on TikTok! You can find me HERE. I am putting out some daily fun, and I hope to also connect with you there!!

Wishing you the best week ahead.

Xoxo,
Ali

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Unleash Your Potential with Strength Training - The Pathway to Effective Fat Loss

Oftentimes we think we need to do tons of cardio to optimize fat loss, in fact, this used to be my belief. I used to spend 45 minutes 5 days per week pounding it out on the treadmill. But what if I told you that there's a more effective way? A way that not only aids in fat loss, but can also give you the muscle tone you are looking for AND improve longevity?

Let's talk about strength training.

While it might seem intimidating at first, strength training has been scientifically proven to be more effective for fat loss than cardio alone. This is because it increases your muscle mass, which in turn, boosts your metabolic rate. Simply put, the more muscle you have, the more calories your body burns at rest. Isn't that fantastic? You can be sitting on your couch, watching your favorite show, and your body is still at work, burning calories.

Imagine the impact this could have on your fitness journey! Not only will you lose fat more effectively, but you'll also enjoy a stronger, healthier body. But remember, it doesn't mean you should give up cardio completely. It's about finding a balance and incorporating a variety of exercises into your regimen to achieve optimal results. Do what works for you!!

Consider this: a study published in the American Journal of Epidemiology revealed that just 30 minutes of strength training per week has the potential to reduce death from any cause by 23%, and death from cancer by 31%. By proving that strength training contributes significantly to longevity, this research provides powerful motivation to integrate this exercise form into your routine.

Another study, appearing in the Journal of Gerontology, showed that individuals over the age of 65 who engaged in regular strength training had a 46% lower risk of all-cause mortality. 

The evidence is clear: consistent strength training, even for just 30 minutes a week, can enhance both your quality and longevity of life.

We are committed to getting everyone strength training!! Which is why we are developing some incredible programs. We just released 31 Days of FIT, which is a program that both men and women can use!! Each day for 31 days, you get 1 (10-minute) workout and 1 (1-minute) mindset session. Access is for 6-months so you can repeat the program again and again. This program is for you if you can move from sitting to standing (and vice versa) without difficulty. Read all the details of 31 Days of FIT HERE.

And if this is a challenge for you, then get on our waitlist for our Muscle Maintenance During Fat Loss program, which is coming soon and will meet all levels, even those who do best exercising from a chair. You can join our waitlist HERE.

Or perhaps you are looking for higher level workouts and a community of women to lean into. Check out our FIT Woman Collective™. This program features 10 and 30 minute workouts where we focus on muscle and mindset. You can learn more HERE.

Sending lots of love. Have a great week!

xo Ali

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Embracing Small Steps for Big Change in the New Year

As we bid farewell to the old and welcome the New Year, it's natural to reflect on our past and plan for the future. But isn't it true that we often put immense pressure on ourselves to make significant, sweeping changes?

We aim high, dream big, and set monumental goals. While ambition is admirable, it's crucial to recognize the power of small, manageable steps in propelling us towards our aspirations.

In the coming year, let's shift our focus to the "little tiny things." These are the daily habits, the consistent routines, the small acts of kindness, and the thoughtful decisions that can have an enormous impact on our lives. They may not seem like much in isolation, but collectively, these small changes can bring about a transformation in our overall well-being and success.

Remember, when you feel overwhelmed by lofty goals or if you're striving to achieve the 'big things,' take a moment to pause. Pivot your focus toward the small, achievable tasks at hand. These are your building blocks, your stepping stones toward larger goals. They are the heartbeat of your journey, driving most of your results.

Let's make this New Year different. Let's celebrate the small victories, cherish the tiny moments, and appreciate the little things that make up our big, beautiful lives. Here's to a New Year of small steps leading to significant changes.

And, just a recap of my Top 5 Health Strategies for 2024:

1. 3 servings of protein per day

2. 3, 10-Minute Strength sessions per week

3. A daily 10-Minute Walk

4. Limit alcohol to 4 drinks or less per week

5. Get Snobby with Your Extras

So excited for all that we can create in 2024!

Xoxo,
Ali

P.S. Where are my Women Physicians?! Transform® 7.0 starts tomorrow, so this is the final opportunity to enroll in our 72-CME program. And, let me just say… this round is EPIC. With our new features of 10, 20, and 30 minute Mind-Body workouts, we are working smarter, not harder.  

We start tomorrow… and we would love for you to see what is possible in 2024!! 

Transform® 7.0 details and enrollment HERE.

Embracing Optimal Health in 2024: The NEW Guidelines

As 2024 unfolds, I am excited to share how we at The FIT Collective™ are renewing our commitment to promoting a whole person approach to health and wellness.

1. Firstly, we're celebrating muscle mass gains! While the scale might reflect a higher number, this shift represents increased strength and endurance – a testament to your hard work and dedication. It's time we redefined our understanding of health, moving away from merely focusing on weight to recognizing the importance of muscle mass in our overall fitness.

2. Next, we're making mental health a priority. In the hustle and bustle of our daily lives, it's easy to neglect our emotional well-being. This year, we aim to provide tools and strategies to tend to our mental health, offering techniques for stress management, emotional regulation, and promoting overall mental wellness.

3. Additionally, we're championing the importance of mandatory rest in our daily routines. In our pursuit of optimal health, it's crucial to honor the restorative power of rest and recovery. Downtime isn't a sign of weakness or laziness; it's an essential component of holistic well-being. Rest allows our bodies to heal, our muscles to repair, and our minds to rejuvenate.
   This year, we're integrating mandatory rest periods into our wellness program, encouraging everyone to take time for relaxation and self-care. Because at The FIT Collective™, we understand that health is as much about the pause as it is about the push.

4. Another key aspect we're emphasizing is the incredible benefits of regular exercise. Beyond weight management, physical activity plays an essential role in emotional regulation, muscle strengthening, increasing longevity, and reducing the risk of chronic illnesses. We're dedicated to providing exercise routines that can be easily incorporated into your lifestyle, catering to your unique needs and preferences.

5. Finally, we understand the power of community in nurturing health and wellness. We encourage you to seek out support from a network that understands your journey, empathizes with your struggles, and celebrates your victories. Our platform strives to offer this support, fostering a community that empowers each member, ensuring a shared, enriching journey towards holistic health.

So there you have it: Muscles, Mindset, Rest, Movement, Community.

Together, let's make 2024 a milestone year in your health journey. Join us tomorrow for our Transform® Preview Week.

Hope to see you there!

xoxo
Ali

Happiest of Holidays Filled With Joy, Peace, Love, & Connection

Growing up, I always looked forward to the winter holidays. For Thanksgiving, we would drive to my aunt’s house in the Philadelphia area. She would always have clementines and string cheese for appetizers as my uncle made his homemade mushroom soup that only the adults opted in for.

On Christmas Eve, we would meet up with my dad’s family at the WestMoreland Club where we would feast the night away. It was that dinner where I always wore my new holiday outfit. Then on Christmas day, my mom’s Italian family would come to our house where my mom would make a lavish meal. 

Each Christmas afternoon, I can remember that I did 2 things almost every year. I would fill up bags with things to give away, and I would take a nap by the tree. Looking back, this time of year really symbolized a process of me choosing simplicity and rest.

My younger brother was born on New Year’s Eve. We would have Prime Rib and Yorkshire Pudding and then prepare for our round-the-world buffet at midnight. We would make a dish from as many countries as we could.

I feel blessed that I was able to have so much joy and peace and love and connection then… and now.

As we journey into the magical season of togetherness and goodwill, I invite each and every one of you to embrace the beauty that resides within our hearts - the purest essence of peace, love, and connection. May these sentiments guide your path, not only during these festive moments, but throughout the forthcoming year.

As we prepare to welcome 2024 with open arms, let us harness this inner tranquility as our driving force, our compass navigating us toward joy, growth, and fulfillment. Here's to a year where we not only chase dreams, but live them.

Sending you all my love,

Ali

What Exercise Taught Me About Rest

As high-performing individuals, we often fall into the trap of believing that rest will hinder our productivity.

I recall pondering over this during a workout session when an analogy struck me...

Why do we take rest periods in between our sets during strength training? Isn't it because our muscles need time to recover to perform optimally in the next set?

Similarly, our brains, our most important 'muscle' when it comes to productivity, also require rest. When we deny ourselves the rest we need, we're effectively depriving our minds of the recovery time they need to function at their best, leading to burnout and a decline in productivity. So, like a well-structured workout, we need to incorporate rest into our lives.

During rest, especially after strenuous exercise, our bodies undergo a myriad of complex physiological processes crucial for our overall health and performance. For instance, the body begins to replenish its energy stores, which have been depleted during the workout. This involves restoring glycogen, a primary source of energy during intense physical activity, within our muscles and liver.

Additionally, rest allows for repair and growth of tissues. During this time, tiny tears formed in muscles as a result of strenuous exercise begin to heal. This process, aided by proteins, not only repairs the damage but also makes the muscles stronger and more resilient to future stress.

Lastly, rest is pivotal in the process of regulating the body's immune system, reducing inflammation, and managing hormone levels. Therefore, rest, just like exercise, is a vital component of a balanced fitness regimen.

Mental rest, much like physical rest, is vital for our cognitive function. It looks like stepping away from the hustle and bustle of our lives, even for brief periods, and allowing our minds to relax and recharge.

This could be as simple as spending a few quiet moments in mindfulness or meditation, unplugging from digital devices, or immersing ourselves in nature. It also includes engaging in activities that bring us joy and help us unwind - such as reading a book, painting, or listening to music.

Mental rest could also look like prioritizing sleep, as it plays an essential role in memory consolidation and cognitive function. By providing ourselves with these moments of mental reprieve, we enhance our capacity to concentrate, make decisions, and maintain emotional balance, ultimately enhancing our productivity and overall well-being.

Just as mental and physical rest are essential, so is emotional rest. Emotional rest looks like allowing ourselves to openly express our feelings and emotions, creating space to be authentic and genuine. It’s about giving ourselves the permission to feel, and not suppressing the emotions that we experience. It also involves setting boundaries to protect our emotional energy.

This may mean saying no to requests or commitments that drain us, or disassociating from relationships and environments that are emotionally toxic. Fostering connections with people who understand and support us can also be a form of emotional rest. By finding and using these outlets for emotional expression and support, we can begin to replenish our emotional energy, leading to a more balanced and wholesome state of being.

Taking a moment to reflect on your current state of well-being can provide insights on which aspect of your health requires immediate attention.

Are you mentally exhausted from constant decision-making, emotionally exhausted from emotional turmoil? Or perhaps physically drained from strenuous activities or energetic depletion due to high-stress periods?

Once you identify the area that needs rest, it's crucial to carve out at least 10 minutes daily to focus on rejuvenation. This could be taking a break for deep-breathing exercises for mental rest, writing in a journal for emotional rest, taking a short nap for physical rest, or engaging in some grounding outdoor activity to restore your energy. Remember, even small intentional steps toward rest can make a significant impact on your overall well-being.

We need rest as much as we need any other health strategy. Can you find 10-minutes per day for you to prioritize your rest?

Sending lots of love to you!

xo
Ali

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No-Bake Cookies Work… So do No-Time Health Strategies 😊

For years, we have lived under this false pretense that we have to invest a lot of time and energy into our nutrition and exercise to see results. But, let's challenge that notion.

Small, consistent changes make a world of difference! Just imagine the impact of adding a brisk walk in the hallway at work. Yes, it's that simple. You don't have to overhaul your life to experience the benefits of a healthier lifestyle.

The journey to fitness isn't a sprint, it's a marathon. Every little step counts, and before you know it, these small changes accumulate into significant results. So, start where you are, use what you have, and do what you can.

Now, here is my interest: health strategies that take no extra time. Or, if they do require some amount of time, it is a short amount that values quality over quantity. Today I am going to share with you my top 10 time efficient health strategies that have truly transformed how we get results. Remember, results come with consistency. And to be consistent, we need easy to implement strategies.

1. 10-Minute Strength Training Routines. A study published in The Journal of Physiology discovered that short bursts of high-intensity resistance training, as little as 10 minutes a day, can result in similar muscular and metabolic improvements as traditional prolonged endurance training. This includes enhancing insulin sensitivity, losing fat, and gaining lean muscle mass.

2. 1-Minute Mindset Sessions. A study conducted by the University of Pennsylvania suggests that a mere 1 minute of focused, mindful meditation can help reduce feelings of stress and improve mood. Additionally, research published in Behaviour Research and Therapy indicates that just a minute of positive visualization, where you mentally rehearse a desired outcome or goal, can boost confidence, improve performance, and reduce anxiety.

3. Practice Gratitude. On a biological level, gratitude releases dopamine and serotonin, the two crucial neurotransmitters responsible for our emotions. These neurotransmitters enhance our mood and promote a sense of happiness and well-being. A study in the journal "Psychology Today" found that consistently grateful people exhibit lower levels of depression and stress, showcasing the positive impact of gratitude on our mental health. Another study in the American Journal of Cardiology discovered a correlation between gratitude and heart health, with patients expressing gratitude showing signs of improved heart rate variability.

4. Leaning Into A Community. When we are part of a group sharing the same goals, it pushes us to strive harder, to not give up. Even on days when our spirit wavers, knowing that there are others who are on the same path, facing the same struggles, can give us the push to keep going. In addition, a community provides a platform for sharing tips, strategies, and experiences, making our journey not just more efficient, but also more enriching.

5. Stand More. When working, try to stand instead of sitting. This simple change can improve your posture and increase your total daily energy expenditure. Recent scientific studies have shed light on the enormous health benefits of simply standing more. According to research from the Mayo Clinic, standing burns more calories than sitting, which can contribute to weight loss and increased energy levels. More than that, standing has been linked to lower risks of heart disease and diabetes. This doesn't mean you have to spend your entire day on your feet, but incorporating more standing into your routine, such as by using a standing desk or making phone calls standing up, can make a significant difference. Remember - small changes, big impact! So, stand up for your health!

6. Hydrate. Keep a water bottle at your desk to remind yourself to drink regularly. The importance of staying hydrated cannot be overstated. Water is essential to our survival and daily functioning. Numerous studies highlight the multitude of health benefits associated with drinking water regularly. For example, research published in the European Journal of Nutrition indicated that hydration is crucial for maintaining optimal brain function, influencing mood, memory, and focus. Moreover, a 2016 study from the Annals of Family Medicine affirmed that individuals who consumed more water had a significantly decreased likelihood of suffering from high blood sugar, contributing to the prevention of diabetes. Water also aids in digestion, preventing constipation, and supporting kidney function. Not to mention, keeping yourself well-hydrated can contribute to skin health, adding to your glow.

7. Stretch. Take a moment to stretch your body every hour. This can be done while reading an email or during a meeting. A study published in the American Journal of Physical Medicine & Rehabilitation found that participants who performed regular stretching exercises experienced less pain and stiffness, improved function, and reduced physical stress. Meanwhile, research from the Journal of Gerontology revealed that seniors who incorporated stretching into their exercise routines were less likely to suffer from limitations in physical function. Moreover, stretching has positive effects on our mental wellness, too. It can help to release tension, reduce stress, and promote relaxation.

8. Go for Walk-Talks. Have your meetings or discussions while walking, if possible. This ensures you get your steps in without setting aside extra time. A study from the British Journal of Sports Medicine found that walking at a brisk pace for at least 150 minutes a week can increase life expectancy by up to 3.4 to 4.5 years. Furthermore, The National Walkers’ Health Study reported that regular walking could reduce the risk of cardiac events by 31% and cut the risk of dying by 32%. These benefits were equally robust in men and women. Walking also helps in maintaining a healthy weight, controlling blood pressure, and enhancing mental well-being, all of which contribute to a longer, healthier life.

9. Portion Control. Use smaller plates and bowls to naturally reduce portion sizes without feeling deprived. The 'Delboeuf illusion,' a well-documented psychological phenomenon, posits that people tend to misjudge the size of identical items when placed in different-sized circles. In the context of eating, if you put the same quantity of food on a larger plate, it appears smaller and less satisfying, leading you to serve and consume more. On the other hand, the same amount of food appears larger and more filling on a smaller plate, causing you to eat less. A study published in the Journal of the Association for Consumer Research found that people who used larger tableware ended up serving themselves 16% more food, leading to a substantial increase in calories consumed.

10. Deep Breathing. Practice deep breathing for a few minutes daily. It helps reduce stress and keeps you calm. According to a research published in Frontiers in Human Neuroscience, deep and slow respiration can lower blood pressure and promote feelings of calm and well-being, reducing stress and anxiety. It can also increase alertness and oxygen flow, improving concentration and energy levels. A study in the Journal of Clinical Psychology revealed that breathwork can effectively alleviate symptoms of depression. Furthermore, it's a natural painkiller as it releases endorphins, which are feel-good hormones that improve mood and provide pain relief. Best of all, breath work can be done anywhere, at any time, without needing special equipment or a lot of space - making it an incredibly accessible health strategy for everyone.

Optimal health is available to us by doing the things that are easily accessible. Over the past year, I am creating my programs which follow the principle of Less is More. Just last week, we launched our 31 Days of FIT program which features 10-Minute Workouts and 1-Minute Mindset Topics. The feedback has been overwhelmingly amazing.

31 Days of FIT is the program you enter as you prepare for Transform® 7.0, which starts on January 8th. If you are looking to work smarter, not harder this year and also enjoy optimal health, we would love to welcome you into our Transform® Community. We are enrolling through January 7th. The beauty is that when you join now, you get to meet your community and start working with me right away.

Hope to see you there. You can check out all the details for Transform® 7.0 HERE.

Talk Soon!

xoxo-

Ali

One of our Biggest Transform® Results… You Won’t Believe It!!

One of the biggest concerns that women come to me with is, “I cringe at the thought of exercise. I don’t like to do it because it is painful mentally, emotionally, and physically. It even brings back old stuff from high school gym class.”

I have had hundreds of women come to me with this concern. And, because of this… one of my most favorite results that women get from Transform® is the way that they learn to love exercise. Exercise is healing, grounding, and a catalyst for empowered longevity.

Imagine waking up every day feeling energized, ready to conquer your day with vigor and vitality. This is not just a dream; it can be your reality, and I am here to guide you on this journey.

I understand that exercise, particularly strength training, may seem daunting; the thought of panting and straining might even be off-putting. But, believe it or not, strength training can be enjoyable, a source of pleasure, and not just a chore. And once you start loving it, it's game changing.

Consider Dr. J, a 45-year-old doctor and mother of two, who was constantly feeling fatigued and stressed. She was struggling with her weight and felt her health was spiraling out of control. Dr. J decided she needed to make a change and reached out to me. I worked with her to introduce my quick and effective Mind-Body workouts into her weekly routine. In fact, we started with just 1 workout weekly!

Seeing her progress, we gradually worked her up to 3, 30-minute Mind-Body workouts. Dr. J discovered she picked up on strength training very easily. She began to feel stronger, more energetic, and empowered. She was sleeping better, her stress levels reduced, and she even lost body fat. Dr. J saw the transformative power of exercise, both for her body and her mind.

Now, Dr. J is a passionate advocate for regular exercise. She has seen firsthand the difference it makes, not just in her appearance but in her zest for life. Dr. J says, "I can't even believe who I have become."

With a strategic strength training plan that suits your preferences and lifestyle, we can make exercise something you look forward to, not dread. It's not just about adding years to your life but adding life to your years. 

And, because I am so dedicated to helping you discover exercise, I want to invite you to something VERY VERY special. I have created a Transform® Preview week. You can sample our Transform® program for a week with a complimentary enrollment. Details are coming shortly so be on the lookout in your inbox!! 

See you soon!

Xo Ali

Why We Avoid Being Present & What to Do About It Today

Over the past couple of years, what I started to dive into more is this idea that we work so hard to create the life that we WANT. Then there comes a time when we really feel that on paper, everything looks great BUT on the inside we feel so disconnected from our life.

The magic comes when we learn how to GET INTO OUR LIFE.

So, how do we do this?? One of the things I teach in my coaching programs is how to identify the blockages that are preventing us from getting into our life. Often, we don’t want to be present in our current life because it feels so darn uncomfortable.

So, I have created a list of common reasons why it may feel difficult to want to be in the moment with your life right now. More than one will likely resonate with you. You don’t need to judge any of your thoughts surrounding this… all that is required is awareness. 

Here are some of the common reasons why we avoid being present in our life now. As you can see, all of these create tremendous discomfort. As humans, we try to avoid discomfort which translates into keeping ourselves out of the present.

Everlasting Fatigue: The relentless pace of your career leaves you constantly drained, with energy levels hitting rock bottom.

Neglected Personal Health: Amidst the rush of saving lives, your own health is often relegated to the backseat.

Burnout on the Horizon: The overwhelming job stress is leading you down the path of burnout, affecting both professional and personal life.

Overpowered by Guilt: The constant struggle between duty toward patients and personal needs often leaves you cloaked in guilt.

Lost Identity: In the role of a physician, you've lost sight of your own identity, your needs, and desires.

Lack of Self-Care: You've been so engrossed in caring for others, that self-care has become a foreign concept.

Constant Mental Stress: The high demands of your profession have burdened you with perpetual mental stress, affecting your peace of mind.

Compromised Family Time: Your professional commitments have started to encroach on your cherished family time, causing emotional distress.

Poor Lifestyle Choices: Due to time constraints and stress, you've resorted to unhealthy lifestyle choices, further deteriorating your health.

Feeling Undervalued: Despite your immense dedication and sacrifice, the feeling of being undervalued and neglected has seeped in.

So, where do we go from here???

First, let’s celebrate that you have likely achieved more awareness. Next, let’s pick the one blockage that resonates with you most. Finally, can you make one next best decision in creating a strategy to overcome this blockage?

One of the highlights of our program, Transform®, is that we help you to identify your personal blockages so you can reach your highest potential in all areas of your life. We help you enjoy the life you have worked so hard to create.

Our 7th season of Transform® begins January 8th. We are offering our early action discount if you deposit by November 30th!! We have an amazing group, and we cannot wait to share our work with you. 

You can check out all of the details of Transform® HERE. And, if it sounds good to you, you can take the next step of:

1. Placing your deposit for your early action pricing

2. Watching our Transform® 7.0 Info Session Replay

We are so excited about what is possible for you!

Talk soon!

Xo Ali

Focusing on Physical Health to Prevent Physician Burnout? Really?

By now, we have all heard that coaching is one of the gold standards for treating physician burnout. It is an amazing tool that is helping our profession to regain empowerment, self-compassion, and autonomy.

One of the areas of physician health that I love to focus on is the optimization of our physical health. Now, there are many reasons for this beyond the fact that our profession is physically demanding. In fact, improving physical health is crucial in preventing physician burnout.

Here’s why:

• Engaging in regular physical activity and maintaining a balanced diet not only fosters physical well-being, but also significantly reduces stress. Additionally, a healthy diet fuels the body, heightening energy levels and overall vitality.

• Regular exercise releases endorphins, the body's natural mood-boosters, which can help combat the worry and anxiety often associated with demanding professional environments.

• Increased stamina from optimal physical health strategies can better equip us to manage the high-stress situations that we encounter daily. 

• Prioritizing physical health can also lead to improved sleep, which is essential for recovery and endurance. 

• Through a physical health focus, we as physicians can foster resilience, thus preventing burnout, and enabling us to continue providing exceptional care to our patients while also caring for ourselves.

• When we prioritize our own health, we are taking back the power of how we choose to show up for ourselves and those who depend on us.

And there is more:

The strategies to achieve optimal physical health are simple. In fact, I am going to share my top strategies right here today. Now, knowledge is one thing. The implementation is another. It is important that we start small and set realistic goals, plus enlist a support system to help keep you accountable.

Here are my top physical health strategies I want to share with you: 

Meet Yourself Where You Are NOW. If you can find love, acceptance, and compassion for where you are now, you will be willing to invest in yourself for the long haul. 

Set Realistic Goals And Ask For Help in planning a sustainable program that is specific to you. In other words, get to know yourself and what you need so you can have a program designed for your unique needs.

Engage in a Strength Training Program. The goal is 3 days per week, and 30 minutes per session is plenty. If you aren’t familiar with safe programming, find a source that you trust to program your routines.

Get Your Steps. Long hours of cardio is not going to be sustainable. So unless you are training for a race, start to think of how you are engaging in cardio. Now, if you love it - great, keep doing it. However, if you are doing it because you think you should, it is time to rethink.
Getting 5k or more steps per day will improve your cardiovascular health and longevity. So take the stairs and avoid the hospital shuttle (if you can), even park further away. Steps save lives!

Eat Your Protein! Most of us just don’t eat enough protein consistently. This will prevent us from optimizing body composition, which is so important if we are going to age into a functionally fit older adult. Don’t know how much? Get advice from a trusted source; you will be so glad you did.

Get Snobby with Your Extras. Eat the cake. Drink the bourbon. Just make it the best. That means no more stale cupcakes from the doctor’s lounge.  

Get Into Your Life. Often, when we are so emotionally dysregulated, we avoid our life. We want you in the life you have worked so hard to create. Learn some emotional processing techniques and understand the blocks you are facing so you can release them… all of them.

Your Health is Non-negotiable. Investing in our vessel is the greatest gift we can give ourselves. And, I am so passionate about it that I have created a company just for physician health. And, you can earn CME Credit all while you are taking care of yourself. Sounds like a Win-Win to me. 

Join me this January as we embark on season 7 of Transform®. I will be with you every step of the way as you experience physician coaching in a whole new way.

You can learn more about Transform® 7.0 HERE. Please note, we are offering $1,000 off until November 30th, 2023 as a fast action bonus!! We would love to see you in our amazing group.

Learn more HERE.

I also hosted a live info session this past week, where I answered the questions we get about the program. It was so much fun! Check it out below...

xo-
Ali

Can Women in Perimenopause and Menopause Change Their Body Composition?

One of the biggest concerns that women physicians come to me with is whether or not they can decrease body fat AND increase muscle mass during perimenopause and menopause.

While the answer is a big enthusiastic “YES!!!!”- I think it is important to explore what we are up against before we dive into the solution.

Once we hit the age of 30, we begin to naturally lose muscle mass if it is not attended to. Further, there are some other key physiological changes that we start seeing around the age of 40. 

We start to see: 

1. Hormonal Changes: Women over 40 often experience hormonal changes brought on by perimenopause or menopause. These changes can have profound effects on our health, causing symptoms like hot flashes, mood swings, and weight gain, which can significantly impact their quality of life. Often our mental health suffers as we start to experience these changes.

2. Decrease in Bone Health: The risk for osteoporosis increases for women over 40, making bone health a significant concern. Regular resistance and balance exercises are crucial during this time to sustain bone density and overall strength.

3. Cardiovascular Health Concerns: Heart disease risk increases after 40, and it's the leading cause of death for women. Maintaining a healthy diet and incorporating regular physical activity are key practices for heart health.

4. Metabolic Changes: As women age, metabolism slows, which can lead to weight gain and increased risk of conditions like diabetes. Regular exercise and a balanced diet can help manage these changes

Now, let’s simplify:

Physiologically speaking, our hormone changes can create mood changes and often we don’t feel our best given the same circumstances. Then as bone and muscle mass potentially decrease, so does our basal metabolic rate. Then, we inevitably gain body fat.

We may start to go into a negative thought spiral thinking that we have to allow perimenopause and menopause to happen to us. Potentially we may become less active because our shift in body weight makes us less likely to want to move, and we will then have an even bigger risk of cardiovascular disease.

Really the perfect set-up to feel absolutely defeated and as if it is all downhill from here. And, it’s not. Simple strategies can correct all of this. And even more exciting, there are just 3! To embrace perimenopause and menopause and experience our best health yet we have to consider and remain consistent with 3 things:

1. Strength Training. Strength Training will increase our muscle mass, enhance our bone mass, increase BDNF (brain derived neurotrophic factor), prevent injury, give us more energy, strength and confidence.
   So how much? We are talking (10-30 minutes) 3 times per week. That’s all it takes when you have proper strategy and consistency.

2. Eating Adequate Protein. Most of us are not eating enough protein. Protein will enhance our metabolism, preserve muscle mass, and improve satiety. And, I am not talking about counting macros.
   We can determine the minimum requirement for your goals and stay consistent with it. This is really where women start to see significant improvement in body composition.

3. Steps. Forget planned cardio (unless you love it). Work toward getting 5k steps or more each day, which can improve cardiovascular health and longevity.
   When we start to increase our steps, and we do so consistently, this strategy will be more effective than hours of planned cardio. And, it will not increase our appetite to an obnoxious level like long endurance cardio does.

In my Transform® community, Women Physicians come together to create the most optimal health for themselves, which allows them to show up exactly how they want in all other aspects of their life.

Transform® is a 72-CME program that combines a mental, emotional, and physical health strategy to help you become the fittest version of you inside and out.

For the low-down on our early action bonus, click HERE.

Check out the replay of our info session, where I give you all the details, by clicking below!

Xo,
Ali

Top 5 Obstacles That Challenge Our Optimal Health as Women Physicians

As I prepare for our 7th season of Transform®, I wanted to make sure that I was being excessively thorough in addressing the biggest obstacles Women Physicians face when trying to prioritize their own health.

Listed below are the obstacles that I hear again and again. And, our Transform® program addresses each and every one. If you are worried about “Time,” I want to reassure you that Transform® was strategically created for women physicians so that extra time is not necessary. In fact, you will create time in your life.

Look what Dr. BG has to say:

“Yesterday you said I am seeing results because I am so consistent, and what I wanted to share with you is that YOU have made it extremely manageable to be consistent in Transform by clearly being super thoughtful in how you laid it out.

I have three young kids, a full time job with 16 hours of volunteer clinic on top of it, and am getting my coaching certification, yet I truly do not have trouble finding time for Transform thanks to the way you have set it up with 30 minute workouts, coaching call replays, and the amazing Fit Collective app.

The program offers so much but the way it is distributed makes it so wonderfully consumable. So thank you again!!!”

Now, here are the other obstacles that we as Women Physicians face AND that Transform® creates strategies for.

1. Balancing Professional and Personal Life: Women physicians often struggle to find a balance between their demanding careers and their personal life. This can lead to stress, burnout, and a lack of time to focus on their own health and well-being.
   
   In Transform®, we create a safe space for you to prioritize your mental, emotional, physical, and energetic health. In fact, we help you to say “No” to the things that are unnecessary and “Yes” to the things that fill you up. In Transform® you create beautiful boundaries to protect the life that you will curate, driven by your core desires.
   

2. The Mental Toll: The high-stakes and emotionally draining nature of their work can lead to significant mental health challenges, including anxiety and depression. This emotional burden can make it more difficult to maintain healthy habits and routines.
   
   In Transform®, we teach tools and strategies to help you optimize your ability to find emotional regulation so you can live a much more grounded and peaceful life. In fact, our strategies are cutting edge and adapted from DBT (dialectical behavioral therapy) techniques.
   

3. Physical Exhaustion: Long hours, night shifts, and the physically demanding nature of their work can lead to chronic fatigue. This exhaustion can hinder their ability to exercise regularly and maintain a healthy diet.
   
   In Transform®, we keep it simple. We will help you to work smarter, not harder to implement sustainable nutrition and exercise programming that will allow for more strength, energy, and favorable body composition. We teach you Mindful Macros® so you aren’t counting, weighing, or measuring, AND I lead you through every strength training session with my signature on-demand Mind-Body Workouts, which change each week.
   
   In the 6-months, we will work out 72-times together and each workout offers a new coaching topic for inspiration. In 30-minutes just 3-times per week, you will work on your mental, emotional, and physical health. Our exclusive HardCore & Floor Series will help you to achieve more functional fitness so that you can prevent injury and set yourself up for long term success. Yes, you will carry your groceries when you are 90!
   

4. Societal Expectations: Women physicians often face societal pressures and expectations that can add an additional layer of stress. These expectations can distract from their own health needs and may contribute to feelings of guilt when taking time for self-care.
   
   In Transform®, we help you to see that taking care of you FIRST is non-negotiable. When you show up for you, you show up as the best version of you in all aspects of your life. And, when you feel guilty working out for 30-minutes rather than spending time with your kids… remember, your kids will benefit more when you are the optimal version of you!!
   

5. Lack of Support: Many women physicians report a lack of support in their workplaces for their own health and well-being. This can range from a lack of understanding from colleagues to systemic issues within the healthcare sector that don't prioritize physician health. This lack of support can make it difficult for women physicians to prioritize their own health.
   
   In Transform®, we reserve this program for women physicians. You will find the most amazing community of women who are all working toward the most optimal version of themselves. This creates a very high vibrational energy force. When we experience this, we become unstoppable and begin to believe that anything is possible.
   

Find out all about Transform® 7.0 and if our amazing 72-Credit CME program is the right community for you!!! Our fast action bonus runs through November 30, and you won’t want to miss it!

Feel free to share with a Woman Doc who may want to join you!

Xo,
Ali

Watch the replay of our recent live info session where I share all the details below:

Do This, Not That, for Your Health

I hope you had an amazing week. It was a busy week for me as I had the opportunity to be interviewed for several podcasts on optimal health. And, as I reflected on all of the different concepts I talked about, I thought that this week I would share with you some key strategies that I use to help my clients become ultra successful in their pursuit of optimal health.

For fun, I thought I would use a Do This, Not That Format!!

This is a fun way to challenge limiting beliefs to help you consider a different work smarter, not harder strategy.

So, here we go:

1) Do This: Aim to get 5,000 steps per day. It's a reasonable and achievable goal to start with. Walking is a low-impact exercise that can easily fit into your daily routine. You could make small changes such as taking the stairs instead of the elevator, parking further away at the store, or going on a short walk during your lunch break. Every step you take is a step toward better health!

Not That: Don't be disheartened if you can't run a marathon or hit the gym for hours. Remember, it's not about setting unreachable goals that can lead to disappointment. It's about making small, consistent changes that add up over time. So, swap that daunting workout plan for a simple step goal and witness a transformation in your health journey.

2) Do This: Commit to strength training for an hour each week. This doesn't have to be an hour all at once - it could be split into two 30-minute sessions or even four 15-minute quick workouts. Strength training is essential for maintaining lean muscle mass, boosting your metabolism, and improving bone density. You can even do it at home with just bodyweight exercises or light dumbbells.

Not That: Don't fall into the trap of thinking that more is always better. Overtraining can lead to injuries, exhaustion, and may even halt your progress. It's not about spending countless hours lifting weights or pushing yourself beyond your limits every day. It's about incorporating balanced, targeted strength training into your routine, and giving your body the rest it needs to recover and grow stronger. Remember, consistency trumps intensity every time.

3) Do This: Know visually what three servings of protein looks like per day, and eat that. Protein is essential for repairing and building tissues, making enzymes, and strengthening your immune system. A single serving of protein could be a chicken breast, a cup of cottage cheese, a cup of cooked lentils, or a scoop of protein powder. By consuming three servings per day, you're not just feeding your body with what it needs, but you're also keeping your metabolism active and your hunger at bay.

Not That: Don't fall into the trap that you have to obsessively count macros to get results. For many, counting macros is unrealistic and will lead to the feeling of restriction.

4) Do This: Limit your alcohol intake to four drinks or less per week. Mindful drinking promotes better sleep, improved mood, and overall greater health and well-being. Reducing your alcohol consumption also helps maintain a healthy weight as alcoholic drinks are often high in calories and provide little nutritional value.

Not That: Avoid falling into the habit of all-or-none thinking. You do not have to get rid of a glorious and snobby glass of wine, just mindfully choose your consumption.

5) Do This: Limit your added sugar intake. Sugars occur naturally in foods such as fruit and milk, but we need to watch out for added sugars, which are added during processing and preparation. Added sugars add extra calories without providing any nutritional benefits, and consuming too much can lead to weight gain and health issues like heart disease and diabetes. Start by reading food labels and choosing products with less added sugars. Switch out soda and sugary drinks for water or unsweetened beverages, and satisfy your sweet tooth with a piece of fresh fruit.

Not That: Don't be fooled into thinking that 'natural' sugars like honey or agave syrup are healthier. Added sugar is still sugar, regardless of its source. Instead of focusing on finding 'healthier' sugars, aim to reduce your overall intake. Remember, moderation is key. It's not about completely eliminating all sugary foods, but rather making mindful, informed choices about your diet.

6) Do This: Get snobby with your extras. Extras refer to the additional elements you add to your diet or lifestyle. We want you to focus on the quality of your extras. Make them good!

Not That: Don't eat freezer burn ice cream because it's there. You deserve the very best. This will lead to more compassion and a better relationship with food.

7) Do This: Learn emotional regulation techniques to manage stress and avoid falling into unhealthy habits. Practice mindfulness, deep breathing exercises, or meditative journaling to stay centered and calm. Cherish the power of positive affirmations; remind yourself daily that you're strong, you're capable, and you're on your way to becoming the best version of yourself.

Not That: Don’t blame yourself for indulging in a habit. This habit is there for a reason. Typically to make us feel better emotionally. Let's explore the emotional side of our health to make long lasting changes.

Well, there you have it. Just some little tips to help you promote sustainable optimal health.

Sending you all the love!

xo Ali

P.S. Transform® 7.0 spots are being enrolled!! Find out more about our program and the early action bonus HERE . And, yes we give 72-CME credits for you to optimize your health!

Curious what others are asking about the program? I hosted a live info session where I give all the details. Click below to watch!

The Power Within: Meeting Yourself Where You Are

I wanted to take a moment to remind you of an important truth - it's perfectly okay to meet yourself where you are. You are enough, just as you are, right in this moment.

Often, we're told to aim high, to reach for the stars. While ambition is vital, it's equally important to acknowledge where you currently stand. It's in acknowledging our starting point that we truly begin to move forward. Remember, every step you've taken has led you to where you are today and that in itself is a journey worth celebrating.

It's okay if you aren't where you thought you'd be by now. Life is not a race, it's a personal journey. Meet yourself where you are, and love yourself in your current state. Embrace your strengths, accept your weaknesses, and know that you are still growing.

Remember, you are a masterpiece and a work in progress. So, let's celebrate the progress you've made, and look forward to the journey that lies ahead.

Believe in yourself, for you are capable of extraordinary things.

Sending you love,

Ali

P.S.

We are planning for our 7th round of our flagship program, Transform®. If you haven’t heard, Transform® is our 6-month, high touch coaching program for women physicians where we focus on all aspects of your health: mental, emotional, physical, and energetic.

Transform® offers 72-CME credits and within the program you will find the most amazing community of women physicians. Our community fosters work toward self-love, self-acceptance, connection, strength, growth, and so much more.

In Transform® 7.0, you will not only have your nutrition and exercise managed, but you will also have all of the tools for curating an optimal mindset, emotional regulation, and energy conservation.

The program is designed for busy women physicians and all workouts last no longer than 30-minutes. Plus, with our new Hardcore and Floor series, we help you to create a new foundation for functional fitness.

Over the course of the 6-months, you will be working with me and one other coach. We keep our coaching team small in Transform® to promote a more intimate feel to the program. And, we find that with this type of set up, we can help facilitate your willingness to be seen. When we feel seen, we can be vulnerable. When we are willing to be vulnerable… we can expect massive growth.

Learn more by clicking below!

Sharing my 2024 Blueprint!!

I hope you had a phenomenal week. Our team is regrouping this week as we prepare our 2024 offerings, including new content and programs.

With that being said… we are heading into November, which means holidays are coming up. And, with the holidays comes a time for reflection and connection as we think about what we want for ourselves in the New Year.

So, today I want to take an opportunity to share with you how I will be approaching 2024. For me, 2024 is all about energy.

This means that I will commit to 3 things:

1. I will shine my shield and have it prepared to handle any negative energy that can sometimes sneak in.

2. I will nurture myself in mind, body, and spirit so I can contain and foster as much positive energy as possible.

3. I will create a guarded portal that is available for new experiences, opportunities, thoughts, adventures, and anything that can help me to get into my life and grow on my journey.

Next, I will define 3 responsibilities that I have for each category. This will allow me to formulate a blueprint for how I can show up in a way that can support who I am becoming.

1. Shield Responsibilities. My shield will allow me to own what is mine and not take on (thoughts, feelings, burdens, etc.) that are not mine. My shield will also allow me to say "No" to what no longer serves me. My shield will remind me that I get to make decisions that serve me, even if they disappoint others.

2. Mind, Body, Spirit Nurturing Responsibilities. I will clean out my mindset closet of thoughts that no longer serve me; I can donate them to the trash can. I will get my steps and move my body lovingly and with tremendous gratitude for what it does for me. I will connect with my family often because this is what fills me up the most.

3. Portal Responsibilities. I will identify what I need for peace and let more of that in. I will identify what I need for freedom and let more of that in. I will identify what I need for meaningful connection and let more of that in.

And, this is where it all starts for me. This is my blueprint that will help me to create my further plans. The Portal Plans are the most exciting.

So, let me tell you about a few things I am planning.

1. Peace. More reading. More rest. Less phone. Less business.

2. Freedom. Stop trying to fit where I don't belong and believe in my path forward.

3. Connection. Quarterly date weekends with Mark (no business, no kids, no phones… just us).

I am so excited to think through the details further, and I invite you to do this along with me!!

xoxo,
Ali

P.S. Transform® 7.0 is enrolling now with an early action offer. Check it out HERE!

My Top 10 Take-Homes from Our Utah Retreat

I had the pleasure of hosting a retreat for 50 members of our community last week.

We were repeat visitors to St. George, Utah at The Red Mountain Resort. This year was very special because each member in attendance came ready. I am humbled by the strength and beauty all in one room. The group had the desire to see each other and to be seen. We got vulnerable and as a result, we have all experienced massive awareness and growth.

There are so many things that I learned at our retreat, and here are some of the pearls I want to share.

1. It all starts with feeling safe in our body. Safety in our body is often something we overlook. And, many of us don't have a standing practice to check in with this. When we can confirm that we are safe, we will allow ourselves to be seen. And, this is when we can really start to dive in and experience massive growth.

2. Our natural energy matters. At the retreat, we discussed our natural energy levels and our tendencies based on these levels. This exercise gave us awareness into why we may seek out certain people, places, and things. That our own authentic energy can be supported in a way that allows us to live our life with purpose.

3. Our vibrational energy also matters. We like to call this our "vibe." The beautiful thing about vibrational energy is that we can actually increase it. You have heard the phrases "low vibe" and "high vibe." When we are in high vibe, we are choosing a growth mindset. This means that we have to check our ego at the door, set boundaries, and even make some massive changes with where we are spending our time. Remember, low vibe can seek low vibe and high vibe, but high vibe will seek high vibe.

4. We all have intuition and a higher self we can refer to whenever we want. The issue is that we are often living in stress mode. When we are in stress mode, we are not regulated emotionally, and we cannot access what we know to be true. In order to tap into our intuition, we have to put daily practices in place to stay more grounded. In fact, we shouldn't be waiting until we are stressed to ground. We should ground ahead of time. At the retreat, I asked each member to leave with one grounding technique that they will implement daily.

5. Understanding our core desires is different than understanding our core values. Our core desires are those emotions we want to feel and live our life by. For example, my core desires are connection, peace, love, and freedom. When we are clear on our desires, we can use them to help make decisions. We can simply ask ourselves: Is this decision honoring at least one core desire?

6. Discomfort is growth. We are comfortable with familiar things. We are not comfortable with unfamiliar things. So, we have a choice. We can be comfortable where we are OR we can choose to move ahead AND honor the discomfort. After all, nothing has gone wrong.

7. It's not all or none. All we ever have to do is the baseline minimum which will allow us to show up with consistency. It also allows us to set realistic expectations. When we do this, we show up for ourselves in a way that will allow us to build a loving, trusting relationship with ourselves.

8. You may have to leave spaces that once served you. With growth, you will have to evaluate where you are spending your time. The future version of you will likely exist in a different space. Honor where you came from and also honor where you are going.

9. Asking for help is a power move. Very few do it without guilt. What if you could? Just as much as you like to be helpful, so do others. Decide what you need help with AND ask for it.

10. A way to protect precious energy and emotional health is to start being very clean on owning ONLY what is ours to own AND not owning other people's stuff. Drop that burden right now. It is not helping you or the other person. When someone tries to give you their emotional garbage, ask yourself… is this mine? Refuse to carry burdens that are not yours!!

We have some amazing things coming your way. Transform® 7.0 (72-CME) begins Jan. 8th, 2024!! And we have an early OFFER for you. If you deposit for 7.0 by November 30th, you can take the program for $6,000. This is a $1,000 savings. Price increases on Dec. 1st. Monthly payments are available to begin 2 weeks prior to the start of the program.

Members who deposit by Nov. 30th will get my SPECIAL Fit Through the Holidays workout series that will be released the month of December. These are quick and effective and will bring energy and a smile to your holiday season.

Next steps: Check out all of the details HERE. And if you are ALL-IN, join the interest list, which will then send you a link with our special discount offer. Remember, deposit must be received by November 30th!!!

Xo,
Ali

Allowing Yourself to be Cared For

I have to say that this year has been full. When I say full… I mean full in every way you can imagine. Ups and downs combined with questions and curiosity. This year has driven me to think outside the box, getting to know myself even better.

I want to share with you an amazing experience I had this weekend where I joined several others in a circle to learn a new way of healing. It is called Systemic Constellation Work. What is Systemic Constellation Work? Systemic Constellations offer the release of biographical and generational trauma to deepen your relationship with yourself.

And… that's all you need to know for now. Because the purpose of this post is to let you in on the breakthrough I had through this work.

In my life, I have carried this belief that I can do everything and take care of everyone ALL-THE-TIME. The truth is that this is not realistic. This thinking sets ourselves up for not being able to ask for help or to be taken care of.

We can often see this come up in intimate relationships. 

My husband, Mark, is INCREDIBLE. Because he is so secure in his masculine energy, he allowed me to hang out in mine as often as I wanted.

Now, a couple of issues here:

1. I feel stressed in Masculine Energy while I feel light in Feminine Energy.

2. When I flex my Masculine Energy, we lose the polarity in our intimate relationship, which can create conflict.

I take away Mark's ability to enjoy being the man that he is.

So, essentially I was flexing to an energy that I don't like, which was taking away some of Mark's role. Why was I doing this???? Without going into the origin of why I am this way, I was doing this because it felt uncomfortable to release into someone completely taking care of me. This felt very vulnerable, yet I felt safe.

This realization set the stage for an amazing conversation between Mark and I. And, it went like this:

Ali: "I want to be taken care of by you AND not feel guilty that I am not just doing it myself."

Mark: "I want to be the best husband I can be and take care of you - this would make me so happy."

Ali: "Ok."

Mark: "Ok."

My work is realizing that being taken care of means so many different things. And, for me to feel taken care of, I will need to release into the energy that tells me I can sit back a bit, relax, enjoy, and that someone has my back. Further, someone wants to have my back. 

Here is the surprising beauty. Things changed before my eyes. It was me saying yes to my feminine energy that allowed Mark to settle into his authentic energy, too. The polarization is wider now. Which means.... yes, more attraction in the physical, mental, and emotional. And, this is a place that I want to stay.

So, I ask you: what would happen if you allowed yourself to be taken care of? Sit with it… reflect on it. It seemed foreign and scary AND I am so glad I leaned in.

xo,
Ali

P.S. Transform® Interest list is open!! Learn more HERE.

What Pink Taught Me About Turbulence

I just had the pleasure of attending my very first Pink concert AND it was amazing.

Mark and I took the girls which was incredible because they forgot about the ERAS tour we never got tickets to. Hah!

I was in awe as I watched Pink during her aerial acrobatic routine… she did not miss a note even being completely inverted in air. Her voice, her strength, her energy, her presence. And, her opener, the amazing Brandi Carlile, was outstanding. I never thought that I would be the person to cry at a concert and during their duet - I cried. I was moved.

What I realized during this moment is that I get to choose to be moved whenever I want. And, it feels good to be moved, to be in my life, to be feeling all the things. So, when Pink's song Turbulence was performed, I knew that I needed to write about it this week.

Pink sings,

"Aye, if you're alive (you're alive)
Then it means that you're committed to survive (to survive)
That's enough to drain the life from you sometimes (sometimes)

But I hold on tight (tight) You can't help when your stomach sinks, see your life happen in a flash, (in a flash yeah)

In your head it could be so real that you almost feel the crash (feel the crash oh-oh)
The panic is temporary but I'll be permanent (permanent)
So when it hits, don't forget as scary as it gets

It's just turbulence"

Her words resonate so much with the idea that we can lean into the discomfort AND be safe.

So, as always… I want to give you a strategy that I teach my clients to lean into the discomfort, knowing that they are safe. When we can feel safe from within, we can go to all the depths that we need to in order to find ourselves.

The "Safe in My Body" exercise is a powerful tool for centering yourself and cultivating inner safety.

To start, find a comfortable, quiet space where you can sit undisturbed for a few moments.

Close your eyes and take three deep breaths, allowing the air to fill your lungs, and then slowly release it. As you breathe, imagine a shield of protective light enveloping you, ensuring nothing harmful can enter.

Next, place your hand over your heart, grounding yourself in the sensation of your heartbeat. Remind yourself of your strength and resilience. Say aloud or in your mind, "I am safe. I am strong. I am capable."

Finally, ask yourself on a scale of 1-10 how safe you feel in your body. It doesn't matter what number you report; the idea is that the more often you do a safety check, you will see the number increase. You can prove to yourself that you are the keeper of your safety.

We can't control all of the circumstances around us, but remember, we can always control how we respond. After all, as Pink would say, turbulence is temporary, but your inner strength is permanent.

Sending you so much love,

Xoxo
Ali

Our 2024 offerings are here:

Fit Woman Collective™
Transform® 7.0 Waitlist (72 CME Credits)
Transform® Energy Application (2 spots available)